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As for the boys…”vulnerable fathers turn to time-honored defensive responses to maintain the function that father knows best’ Parents, especially fathers, teach their sons to obey authority no matter what.

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Conscience- protects the privileges of intimacy, makes ,friends keep their promises, prevents the angered spouse from striking back.
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We feel that if someone is bad, he should be burdened with the knowledge that he is bad. It seems to us the ultimate injustice that a person could be evil, by our assessment , and still feel fine about himself.
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We raise our children, especially girls, to ignore their spontaneious reactions-we teach them not to rock the societal boat...By the time she is thirty, the valient little girl's "Ick!"-her tendency to respond, to rock the boat, when someone's actions are really mean, may have been exciese from her behavior, and perhaps from her very mind.
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