Relationships Quotes - Page 55

If you have to chase, beg, or plot for love....It will run away at the next "best" offer.

You can't rock the boat & act like you were just trying to put a baby to sleep.

Ah, Chantal... Now I think I know how it feels to fly on a trapeze.

I wish not to tell you how I feelI choose silence so that you leaveKiss me goodbye and set me free

When people have different ideas about which of these four modes of interacting applies to a current relationship, the result can range from blank incomprehension to acute discomfort or outright hostility. Think abut a dinner guest offering to pay the host for her meal, a person barking an order to a friend, or an employee helping himself to a shrimp off the boss' plate. Misunderstandings in which one person thinks of a transaction in terms of Equality Matching and another thinks in terms of Market Pricing are even more pervasive and can be even more dangerous. They tap into very different psychologies, one of them intuitive and universal, the other rarefied and learned, and clashes between them have been common in economic history.

Steven Pinker

Until we begin to question our basic assumptions about ourselves and view them as fluid, not fixed, it’s easy to repeat established patterns and, out of habit, reenact old stories that limit our ability to live and love ourselves with an open heart.

Sharon Salzberg

Better Associations:If you associate yourself with a change maker,Your life will by all means become better.You will wink at challenges and begin to think.In times of frustrations, you will not sink.If you miss the way to a great destination,Just look for those going to that direction.Mount the shoulders of a giant believerAnd you will become a great achiever.People around you determine your speed.They will influence the growth of your seed.People you are around will decide your strengthAnd also the figure of your success’ lengthI trust you want to become a better you.It matters, what your associates plan to do.It depends, where your companions want to go.It relies on what your friends believe and know.Quit friendships that build you nothingChoose friends who bring out of you somethingOne iron sharpens another ironGo along with great people and ride on.

Israelmore Ayivor

Living in a story of a limited self—to any degree—is not love.

Sharon Salzberg

Identifying the source of our personal narratives helps us to release its negative aspects and re-frame it in ways that promote wholeness.

Sharon Salzberg

Relationships should be like flat pack come with easy to follow instructions so that you knew which bits fitted where

Jenny O'Brien

Sometimes, he gets on my nerves;At other times, I burn the ladder.

Sanhita Baruah

Relationships are messy and painful, and hard to maintain. It takes time build, but only seconds to destroy.

Alexis Tiger

Cultivating loving kindness for ourselves is the foundation of real love for our friends and family, for new people we encounter in our daily lives, for all beings and for life itself.

Sharon Salzberg

You can only feel love to the extent in which you love yourself. If you deficiently love yourself, you will never believe that another person could truly love you. If you overly love yourself, no one’s love will be good enough, and the world will seem pale and cold.

Michael Brent Jones

Hopefully not by sad experience, you will find that some interactions most private, can be the coldest and most closed off, and some interactions seemingly common or casual can be the most intimate.

Michael Brent Jones

When we experience inner impoverishment, love for another too easily becomes hunger: for reassurance, for acclaim, for affirmation of our worth.

Sharon Salzberg

Love is a living capacity within us that is always present, even when we don’t sense it.

Sharon Salzberg

Sanskrit has different words to describe love for a brother or sister, love for a teacher, love for a partner, love for one’s friends, love of nature, and so on. English has only one word, which leads to never-ending confusion.

Sharon Salzberg

When our focus is on seeking, perfecting, or clinging to romance, the charge is often generated by instability, rather than by an authentic connection with another person.

Sharon Salzberg

Real Love may run on a lower voltage, but it’s also more grounded & sustainable.

Sharon Salzberg

From our first breath to our last, we’re presented again and again with the opportunity to experience deep, lasting, and trans-formative connection with other beings: to love them and be loved by them; to show them our true natures and to recognize theirs.

Sharon Salzberg

Buddhist teachings discourage us from clinging and grasping to those we hold dear, and from trying to control the people or the relationship. What’s more, we’re encouraged to accept the impermanence of all things: the flower that blooms today will be gone tomorrow, the objects we possess will break or fade or lose their utility, our relationships will change, life will end.

Sharon Salzberg

Whatever language we use use to describe healthy relationships, when we’re in them, we feel nourished by them, in body as well as mind.

Sharon Salzberg

With our close friends, family members, and lovers, we hope to create a special world, one in which we can expect to be treated fairly, with care, tenderness, and compassion.

Sharon Salzberg

Be open to the possibility that there are other paths available to you in relating to yourself and to another.

Sharon Salzberg

You are too sensitive", says the emotionally immature ignorant without empathy.

Robin Sacredfire

Without equanimity, we might give love to others only in an effort to bridge the inevitable and healthy space that always exists between two people.

Sharon Salzberg

Whether we fear the existence of boundaries with others or crave more of them, there’s no denying that individuation and separation are inevitable parts of loving relationships that become the site of tension.

Sharon Salzberg

We have to know ourselves to know where we end and another person begins, and we have to develop the skills to navigate the space between us. Or else we will seek wholeness through false means that honor neither us nor those we love.

Sharon Salzberg

How we traverse the space between us when conflict arises has a profound effect on the health and longevity of our relationships.

Sharon Salzberg

A particularly difficult line to navigate is the one between fear and love, especially for parents, who want more than anything to protect their children from suffering.

Sharon Salzberg

The paradigm for our relationships is formed from our earliest experiences and is actually hardwired into our neurological and emotional network.

Sharon Salzberg

Letting go of the belief that we’re powerless to help relieve our own suffering enhances our ability not only to heal but also to genuinely love and receive the love of others.

Sharon Salzberg

The key in letting go is practice. Each time we let go, we disentangle ourselves from our expectations and begin to experience things as they are.

Sharon Salzberg

Mindfulness won’t ensure you’ll win an argument with your sister. Mindfulness won’t enable you to bypass your feelings of anger or hurt either. But it may help you see the conflict in a new way, one that allows you to break through old patterns.

Sharon Salzberg

We learn from conflicts only when we are willing to do so.

Sharon Salzberg

Breaking the circle”My eyes darken when I see my new lover. Fresh prey.My body doesn’t really react in a sexual way.It’s the devil inside me that celebrates next conquest.We exchange meaningless sweet words.His hungry gaze penetrates my breasts and ass.Another drink and laughter.And then another one.Sometimes I get very drunk or high.And then I don’t feel him between my legs.I don’t see his sweating face.I don’t hear his moans and questions if I came.I can’t stay sober when I cheat on you.I’m such a coward that I can’t even face this inner monster.It consumes me, it takes away my dignity. It makes me do horrible things.It hurts you, the only one who ever loved me.Who knows what I really am.No. It’s not the monster. It’s me. I am the whore.I dig my nails into your soft flesh until it bleeds.I am the one pushing you away, feasting on your kindness. I blame those hard punches of my past for my infidelity. Those cruel hands. Those hateful words. I try not to, I really do. I try to be a better person.But how can I if I am just nobody?You know why I leave. Yet you stay. You’re there when I’m back.With your sorrow and cry and resentment and wrath.Why?If I’m broken because of my pain what’s your excuse?Why do you keep letting me treat you like a stray dog?Don’t you have any respect for yourself?What the fuck is wrong with you?And just when I think I have my own slave for life you break the circle. You shut the door with a grimace of relief.You can’t look at me anymore. See, you’re finally free!My inner innocent girl is happy for you. But the monster inside kicks and laughs at me.I’m left alone.I dress up and go hunting.

Asper Blurry

You are theremedy of intensityi need in my life, tospin me out of themiserable monotonyof working on life'sdaily assemblylines.

Curtis Tyrone Jones

With these surface waters, through a series of delicately adjusted, interlocking relationship, the life of all parts of the sea is linked. What happens to a diatom in the upper, sunlit strata of the sea may well determine what happens to a cod lying on a ledge of some rocky canyon a hundred fathoms below, or to a bed of multicolored, gorgeously plumed seaworms carpeting an underlying shoal. or to a prawn creeping over the soft oozes of the sea floor in the balckness of mile-deep water.

Rachel Carson

To truly love ourselves, we must challenge our beliefs that we need to be different or better.

Sharon Salzberg

As soon as we ask whether or not a story is true in the present moment, we empower ourselves to re-frame it.

Sharon Salzberg

Maybe what we really need is to change our relationship to what is, to see who we are with the strength of a generous spirit & a wise heart.

Sharon Salzberg

I asked myself only when he needed my help, "How will the broken heal the wounded?

Sanhita Baruah

At the exact time that our society embraces shaming, blaming, judgment, and rejection, it also holds acceptance and belonging as immensely important. In other words, it's never been more impossible to 'fit in,' yet 'fitting in' has never been more important and valued

Brené Brown

There comes a moment when we must choose how we’re going to love someone. Some forms of love leave a sweet memory once they’re gone, others leave scars. But there are forms that when stolen, destroy part of who we are—love that transforms us.

Caroline George

Are you real?” Stupid. Of course he’s real.“Yes, Julie. I’m not the mystical man from your dreams.

Caroline George

A relationship is the union of two psychological systems.

Sharon Salzberg

When we set an intention to explore our emotional hot spots, we create a pathway to real love.

Sharon Salzberg

Angelina said, "Mom. I don't want you to die. That's the whole thing. You took from me the ability to care for you in your old age, and I wanted to be with you when you died, when you die. Mom. I wanted that.

Elizabeth Strout

Often in close relationships, the subject being discussed is not the subject at all.

Sharon Salzberg

Tolerating women is surprisingly easier than understanding them.

Raheel Farooq

And then I wondered if as soon as he came to like me he would sink into ordinariness, and if as soon as he came to love me I would find fault after fault, the way I did with Buddy Willard and the boys before him.... The last thing I wanted was infinite security and to be the place an arrow shoots from. I wanted change and excitement and to shoot off in all directions myself, like the coloured arrows from a Fourth of July rocket.

Sylvia Plath

You don't have to love yourself unconditionally before you can give or receive real love.

Sharon Salzberg

When we develop our ability to love in one realm, we simultaneously nourish our ability in others, as long as we remain open to the flow of insight and compassion.

Sharon Salzberg

So often we operate from ideas of love that don’t fit our reality.

Sharon Salzberg

One of the biggest problem is to notice everything,Secrets and lies kill relationships.

Napz Cherub Pellazo

Feelings of apathy as they relate to our relationships often stem from insufficiently paying attention to those around us.

Sharon Salzberg

Only when we start to distinguish reality from fantasy that we can humbly, with eyes wide open, forge loving and sustainable connections with others.

Sharon Salzberg

What makes awe such a powerful call to love is that it’s disruptive. It sneaks up on us. It doesn’t ask our permission to wow us; it just does. Awe can arise from a single glance, a sound, a gesture.

Sharon Salzberg

One foundation of loving relationships is curiosity, keeping open to the idea that we have much to learn even about those we have been close to for decades.

Sharon Salzberg

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