Listening Quotes - Page 4

While women have come far in their ability to speak on their own behalf, there are many women who compromise what they want to say and what they actually say. Almost all women experience a dissonance between inner and outer. As a matter of emotional and sometimes physical survival, women have found it necessary to split their speech into two parts. One kind of speech is suppressed, occurring only in safe settings with intimates or within the ultimate safety of a woman's own mind.The second kind of speech is the publicly acceptable type that conforms to social expectations. The injunction to suppress certain feelings or thoughts can be so powerful that a woman may not be aware of it and may honestly believe that publicly acceptable speech is all she has in her. Carol Gilligan's work describes the destructive effects of this splitting of voice, especially in young girls who, as they embark on adolescence, have trouble speaking with clarity and strength. An emphasis on listening cultivates a stronger expression of voice. Listening is a crucial component in Imago Theory, where couples are taught to mirror, or repeat back, each other's thoughts, feelings, and needs as a way of building not only their partner's sense of self, but their own. Our core self becomes stronger when it is mirrored back. Voice that is not mirrored dies. When the process of mirroring is followed by validating and empathizing, a deep listening is done with feeling. All of us need validation -- that who we are, what we think, and how we feel does make sense. And the deepest form of listening is empathy, by which we are able to resonate on a soul level with the feelings and needs of one another.A wise proverb states that "Speech is silver, Silence is gold," reminding us of the forgotten value of silence. Feminist theorist Patrocinio Schweickart chose those words as the title of her article on talking and listening that parallels the inward and outward rhythm of Imago dialogue. She points our attention to the value of quiet as a tool that helps us notice the complex interplay of inner and outer that characterizes any creative process. For something new to happen, we need silence and receptivity as well as action and productivity. While some theorists see speaking as active and listening as passive, Schweickart and Imago Theory both point to the reality that both speaking and listening are active. Listening is a way of meaning-making. Theologian Nelle Morten refers to this dynamic as "hearing each other into speech."Ultimately, the development of authentic voice is a process that involves that involves a flow between speaking and listening. In listening, one becomes attuned to the surroundings so that speech becomes relevant and meaningful. This undulating rhythm of speaking and listening is the bedrock for dialogue in Imago Theory and for all of us who care about relationship.

Helen LaKelly Hunt

Our relations seemed poor to me, and I wasn't surprised that the US intelligence picture in the Horn of Africa was weak. Much of what I read consisted of recycled news headlines repackaged as intelligence. Real, valuable intelligence only came from real people, yet we hadn't done much to meet and work with the people.

Eric Greitens

Her father had learned only one thing in prison. Not humility, nor patience, nor understanding...Marshall Kofer had learned to listen, at least to his daughter".

John Grisham

He did it (listened) as the world's most charming and magnetic people do, always asking the right question at the right time, never fidgeting or taking his eyes from the speaker's face, making the other guy feel like the most knowledgeable, brilliant, and intellectually savvy person on the planet.

Stephen King

If I’m surprised at where I’m at, it’s probably because I’m not listening to the reality that listening to the voices that I’ve listened to have put me here. So, maybe I should be less surprised and more disappointed.

Craig D. Lounsbrough

Listen to your intuition and the quiet promptings of your heart.

Bryant McGill

top connecting with the world. Connect with yourself on your beach. Stop thinking. Stop analyzing. Start feeling. Start dreaming.

Kim Ha Campbell

Everyone likes to reminisce, but not one wants to listen, and everyone feels annoyed when someone else tells a story.

Liu Cixin

A woman will feel emotionally secure when you can listen to her stories. Then she will learn to love you.

Tara Estacaan

Annie clouded up. For a second, he thought she was going to erupt, and flinched. She saw that...and got control of herself with an visible effort. She took three deep breaths, each longer than the last, and her features became serene.All at once it seemed totally clear to Mike that she was right and he was nuts - that his ingenius theory was nonsense, childish, fantasty bullshit. His conviction evaporated, and he was ashamed. He felt his cheeks grow hot, groped for words with which to backtrack -"I have to admit I have no better explanation for the the facts," Annie said slowly.Again, Mike did an emotional instant 180. "Holy shit -"She held up a hand. "I am going to think now. Very hard, for a long time. You will be as quiet as possible while I do." She got up from the computer, went to the bed, and lay down. "Think yourself, or read, or play games with the headphones on, or go Topside if you like." She clasped her hands on her belly, closed her eyes and appeared to go to sleep

Spider Robinson

An argument in apologetics, when actually used in dialogue, is an extension of the arguer. The arguer's tone, sincerity, care, concern, listening, and respect matter as much as his or her logic - probably more. The world was won for Christ not by arguments but by sanctity: "What you are speaks so loud, I can hardly hear what you say.

Peter Kreeft

And he listened to me. That was the thing he did, as if he was trying to fill himself up with all the sound he could hear.

Ray Bradbury

The older I grow, the more I listen to people who don't talk much.

Germain G. Glidden

Listening out for the sound of [his parent's] return kept him suspended in a semi-permanent state of agitation just like an apparently sleeping cat whose ear radar never rests.

Jon Edgell

In addition to an open heart and open mind, I also brought (to the small group Bible study) an open mouth.

John Kasich

He seemed less in need of a secretary than of someone to listen to him.

Barbara W. Tuchman

Empathy isn't just listening, it's asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to.

Leslie Jamison

If I had an ear 2 confide inI would cry among my treasured friendsBut who do u know that stops that longto help another carry onThe world moves fast and it would rather pass u bythan 2 stop and c what makes u cry

Tupac Shakur

When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.

Ernest Hemingway

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.

Brené Brown

Listening is a tough skill, but one who practice it becomes The Successful Leader!!!

Santosh Adbhut Kumar

Lincoln loved other people's jokes as much as his own.

Richard Brookhiser

Generous listening is powered by curiosity, a virtue we can invite and nurture in ourselves to render it instinctive. It involves a kind of vulnerability - a willingness to be surprised, to let go of assumptions and take in ambiguity. The listener wants to understand the humanity behind the words of the other, and patiently summons one's own best self and one's own best words and questions.

Krista Tippett

We must be present enough and receptive enough to “hear” with our whole being beyond just the words that are being spoken.

Henry Kimsey-House

When the voices of doubt start whispering, turn-up the volume of faith and listen to your heart.

Bryant McGill

Influencing is just not about listening and speaking, it’s the game of interpretation.

Harrish Sairaman

My parents are great listenersWhich is why I never tell them anything

Sonya Sones

If only parents would listen! If only they would let us talk instead of forever and eternally and continuously harping and preaching and nagging and correcting and yacking, yacking, yacking! But they won’t listen! They simply won’t or can’t or don’t want to listen, and we kids keep winding up back in the same old frustrating, lost, lonely corner with no one to relate to either verbally or physically.

Anonymous

A person’s voice can have such a powerful experience on the listener, very different from looking at the words on the page.

Frank Beddor

Listen to your heart, it will guide you on the right path.

Lailah Gifty Akita

Talking doesn't get your point across but listening does.

Debasish Mridha

Yanked out of the present, Adam discovered the richness of the past in people's stories.

Randy Alcorn

It was understood that they shared the same thresholds--the same inexhaustible appetite for wasting time, for discussing lofty ideas, for dissecting trivial things, for driving to nowhere in particular, for listening to music, for talking about books, for obsessing over pop culture, but mostly for laughing, talking, and simply being together. There was nothing one could say that the other would find too cruel or too kind. And on those rare occasions when they did tire of each other, they needed only go a day without talking before they yearned to reconnect.

Galt Niederhoffer

People with power listen less carefully, and have difficulty taking into account what others already know.

Dean M. Schroeder

Writing, too, is 90 percent listening. You listen so deeply to the space around you that it fills you, and when you wrote, it pours out of you. If you can capture that reality around you, your writing needs nothing else. You don't only listen to the air, the chair, and the door. And go beyond the door. Take in the sound of the season, the sound of the color coming in through the windows. Listen to the past, future, and present right where you are. Listen with your whole body, not only with your ears, but with your hands, your face, and the back of your neck. Listening is receptivity. The deeper you can listen, the better you can write. You can take in the way things are without judgment, and the next day you can write the truth about the way things are."...If you can capture the way things are that's all the poetry you ever need.

Natalie Goldberg

I think she's brave. I think that nobody has ever believed what she could be capable of. All her life, nobody was listening.

Lauren DeStefano

Each of us has been designed for one of two immortal functions, as either a storyteller or as a cross-legged listener to tales of wonder, love, and daring. When we cease to tell or listen, then we no longer exist as a people.

Bryce Courtenay

This process of assimilation, which takes place in depth, requires a state of relaxation that is becoming rarer and rarer. If sleep is the apogee of physical relaxation, boredom is the apogee of mental relaxation. Boredom is the dream bird that hatches the egg of experience. A rustling in the leaves drives him away. His nesting places - the activities that are intimately associated with boredom - are already extinct in the cities and are declining in the country as well. With this the gift for listening is lost and the community of listeners disappears. For storytelling is always the art of repeated stories, and this art is lost when the stories are no longer retained.

Walter Benjamin

Everything that happens to us, everything that we say or hear, everything that we see with our own eyes or we articulate with our tongue, everything that enters through our ears, everything we are witness to (and for which we are therefore partially responsible) must find a recipient outside ourselves and we choose that recipient according to what happens, or what we are told or even according to what we ourselves say. Each thing must be told to someone—though not necessarily to the same person—and each thing will undergo a selection process, the way someone out shopping might scrutinize, set aside, and assess presents for the season to come. Everything must be told at least once, although...it must be told when the time is right, or, which comes to the same thing, at the right moment, and sometimes, if you fail to recognize that right moment or deliberately let it pass, there will never again be another.

Javier Marías

I have witnessed how the power of listening, storytelling and embracing gray areas breaks through the rigid 'us vs. them.

Aspen Baker

Pheoby's hungry listening helped Janie to tell her story.

Zora Neale Hurston

... But these skeptics are only selectively skeptical. They think themselves enlightened for resisting all this new proof and remaining steadfast in mistrusting anything that someone else says. But it is a false enlightenment to accept only those ideas that align with one's worldview and reject those that don't.

Ken Ilgunas

If your ears are bigger than your mouth, you will go very far in life.

Matshona Dhliwayo

When someone refuses listening to reason disaster will surely follow.

Ken Poirot

When I act tough they listen politely till the spasm passes. They know.

Frank McCourt

A good teacher is one, that never stops listening; a good listener is one, that never stops teaching.

Anthony Liccione

.keep the child inside you alive..

Boris Kovalík

Winning or losing achieves the same result--change.

Shannon L. Alder

You listen to people, you listen so deeply that you can hear their past lives,The crackle of their funeral pyres,

Dick Allen

Patience is a virtue as they say and listening is an exercise in patience.

Kaleb Kilton

Having someonewho listensis a great gift,but to be truly heardis a treasure.

Tatjana Urbic

Anyone who takes the time to listen is either an old soul or a romantic one.

Richelle E. Goodrich

I do listen. I just wait for the words to stop and your eyes to speak.

Richelle E. Goodrich

Anyone who takes the time to attentively listen is either an old soul or a romantic one.

Richelle E. Goodrich

The world is in sore need of good listeners. And in our own lives, it’s amazing to recognize just how valuable listening can be for us. How many mistakes have you made because you didn’t listen well? Personally, I’ve made many—and I’ve missed out on some wonderful opportunities because I was more interested in sharing what I had to say than I was in listening to what someone else had to say.

Tom Walsh

I wish I had heard him more clearly: an oblique confession is always a plea.

James Baldwin

Listening over and over to the voices through a family of instruments allowed us to recognize and appreciate the dignity and uniqueness of each living thing in the meadow and forest.

Terry Tempest Williams

Speaking to people does not have the same personal intensity as listening to them. The question I put to myself is not 'How many people have you spoken to about Christ this week?' but 'How many people have you listened to in Christ this week?

Eugene H. Peterson

Communication is defined not by what is being said but by what is being heard. For this reason, it is vital that you gain a good appreciation of how other people will listen—interpret, process, and assign meaning— to what you have to say before you can influence them effectively.

Margie Warrell

Don't assume, because you are intelligent, able, and well-motivated, that you are open to communication, that you know how to listen.

Robert K. Greenleaf

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