Why is it that women are the only ones who will write perfect men into fiction? It’s strange. If a man portrayed his fictional men as archangels, the feminists would throw back their heads and howl, “UNFAIR!” but we women will create our own Mr. Darcy’s and Mr. Knightley’s and defy anyone who would point out their unrealistic points. The men aren’t the ones crazy about Pride and Prejudice. Obviously they don’t find perfect men realistic and honest enough to bother reading about. We don’t write perfect women characters, do we? No. Our women all have bad tempers, or resentful hearts, or scabby pasts, or hidden fears–things that make them real. It’s because we’re easy on ourselves and aren’t trying to boast perfection because we know we don’t measure up. Then why do we hold men to a different standard?….. I’d caution all writers to make sure that your male “hero” in your story has his own flaws. You don’t want a one-dimensional character. You don’t want a perfect man that will drive away other men from reading the book.Look to the men in your life. The men around you. Look to your brothers and fathers and pastors and neighbors. Your uncles and the guy down the street. Goodness–look to Taylor the Latte Boy if you must, but let’s cast aside the Perfect-Man syndrome.
Why is it that women are the only ones who will write perfect men into fiction? It’s strange. If a man portrayed his fictional men as archangels, the feminists would throw back their heads and howl, “UNFAIR!” but we women will create our own Mr. Darcy’s and Mr. Knightley’s and defy anyone who would point out their unrealistic points. The men aren’t the ones crazy about Pride and Prejudice. Obviously they don’t find perfect men realistic and honest enough to bother reading about. We don’t write perfect women characters, do we? No. Our women all have bad tempers, or resentful hearts, or scabby pasts, or hidden fears–things that make them real. It’s because we’re easy on ourselves and aren’t trying to boast perfection because we know we don’t measure up. Then why do we hold men to a different standard?….. I’d caution all writers to make sure that your male “hero” in your story has his own flaws. You don’t want a one-dimensional character. You don’t want a perfect man that will drive away other men from reading the book.Look to the men in your life. The men around you. Look to your brothers and fathers and pastors and neighbors. Your uncles and the guy down the street. Goodness–look to Taylor the Latte Boy if you must, but let’s cast aside the Perfect-Man syndrome.
