Quotes by Therapists - Page 5

We need to talk about the hierarchy of grief. You hear it all the time—no grief is worse than any other. I don’t think that’s one bit true. There is a hierarchy of grief. Divorce is not the same as the death of a partner. Death of a grandparent is notthe same as the death of a child. Losing your job is not the same as losing a limb.Here’s the thing: every loss is valid. And every loss is not the same. You can’t flatten the landscape of grief and say thateverything is equal. It isn’t.It’s easier to see when we take it out of the intensely personal: stubbing your toe hurts. It totally hurts. For a moment, the pain can be all-consuming. You might even hobble for a while. Having your foot ripped off by a passingfreight train hurts, too. Differently. The pain lasts longer. The injury needs recovery time, which may be uncertain or complicated. It affects and impacts your life moving forward. You can’t go back to the life you had before you became aone-footed person. No one would say these two injuries are exactly the same.
Megan Devine
Above all, consider this: The greatest gift we can give ourselves, our children, and our world is to live well and love well.
Alexandra Katehakis
Our culture, so proud of its mind-over-matter philosophy, cuts us off from our bodily experience and from the earth itself. In this severance, our sexuality is negated, our senses assaulted, our environment abused, and our power manipulated. Our ground is our form, and without it we lose our individuality.
Anodea Judith
Sexual energy between two people is a primal force comprised of power (energy that moves toward another) and virtue (knowing the energy between the two is right).
Alexandra Katehakis
It’s time to stop dreaming about who you want your son to be and help him become the healthy, happy, and successful man he’s supposed to be.
Clayton Lessor MA
Healing, it turns out, is a journey. It doesn’t happen all at once.
Clayton Lessor MA
Healthy boys grow into healthy men.
Clayton Lessor MA
According to most studies on the subject, boys who grow up without fathers grow up at a disadvantage.
Clayton Lessor MA
Teaching a boy to be a man is the primary job of a father.
Clayton Lessor MA
There’s a wound most troubled boys share, which, at its core, comes from the feeling that they don’t have their father’s unconditional love.
Clayton Lessor MA
When a boy feels as if no one cares about him, or as if he will never amount to anything, he truly believes it doesn’t matter what he does.
Clayton Lessor MA
Despite what you might believe right now, your son’s future is bright. You only need the right tools to help him get there.
Clayton Lessor MA
The emotional brain existed long before the rational brain.
Deborah Sandella
Tread lightly on your partner’s heart. It was given to you for safekeeping.
Alexandra Katehakis
Anger is fleeting, whereas hostility is enduring.
Deborah Sandella
Where we can get shagged up is the stories we tell ourselves that we rarely share. The stories about how we can’t do something because we aren’t good enough, or smart enough, or capable enough. These stories cause us problems because we often keep them secret, hidden away in some dark closet in our mind, sometimes even from ourselves. And this, my friend, is a problem.
Lyssa Danehy deHart
Many of our flaws are old emotional defenses which may fade away when we're loved in spite of them.
Rick Cormier
We take the most difficult relationship of our childhood... and we MARRY it.
Rick Cormier
There is an unspoken agreement in every successful relationship: "I'm not perfect and you're not perfect. I can ignore your imperfections if you can ignore mine. I choose to spend my life in your company.
Rick Cormier
How else to make a dent in an object as immovable as patriarchy itself...?
Dalma Heyn
Welcome the hidden messages in pain.
Deborah Sandella
Many partners of addicts have told me they feel bad about themselves for staying in the relationship because of the betrayal they’ve experienced. They imagine that the people who know their past judge them to be stupid for staying with the person who’s caused them so much pain. I often counter this thinking, explaining that leaving may seem quick and easy because they can pretend they’re okay and the problem has disappeared. However, if you leave your relationship, you’ll be stuck with your pain and sorrow without the person you loved to help you sort it out. Why is this true? Because even though it feels as if your pain comes from your partner, it’s actually coming from inside you.
Alexandra Katehakis
Caring is open-hearted, keeping us available to transmit love to a stranger through simple eye contact and without condition. This is not the opportunistic sizing-up of sexual cruising; instead, it’s the felt recognition of the divinity and humanity in another individual.
Alexandra Katehakis
Great spiritual teachers throughout the ages have stated that orgasm is the closest some people come to a spiritual experience because of the momentary loss of self. Why is this true? Because with spiritual sex, you move beyond orgasm into a connection with yourself, your partner, and the divine — recognizing them all as one.
Alexandra Katehakis
Some people just need to read and think, to spend time alone sorting through the stories in their heads
Ronald T. Potter-Efron
When we do not fully and equally represent the masculine and the feminine in church and civic leadership, we cannot represent the human experience or Jesus.
Tina Schermer Sellers
I continue to experience my faith in God as a personal relationship between the two of us. However, having admitted my commonality with the human race, I find that my faith does not flourish in isolation. As much as I hate to admit it, my faith is enhanced and enlarged when in relationship to other less-than-perfect human beings. Even though at times other Christians can be quite annoying, I feel very fortunate to have found my way back to a spiritual community that puts up with me even when I'm a bit annoying myself.
Carmen Renee Berry
[Women's magazines]ignore older women or pretend that they don’t exist; magazines try to avoid photographs of older women, and when they feature celebrities who are over sixty, ‘retouching artists’ conspire to ‘help’ beautiful women look more beautiful, ie less than their age...By now readers have no idea what a real woman’s 60 year old face looks like in print because it’s made to look 45. Worse, 60 year old readers look in the mirror and think they are too old, because they’re comparing themselves to some retouched face smiling back at them from a magazine.
Dalma Heyn
Three things make up who we are as individuals: what we think, what we feel, and what we do. If we manage to change any one of these three aspects of ourselves, the other two will follow.
Rick Cormier
I am choosing to flow with the current of life rather than lying in a tide pool experiencing the same things again and again.
Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem
Only you can know what's true for you. I'll help you get there.
Ann Davidman
Life constantly challenges us; it’s not personal, just the natural process of growth and evolution.
Deborah Sandella
Follow your Dreams - They give pathway to the wonder of who you are.
Debbie Burns
It is the very use of coercion, positive or negative, that breaks or deadens the spirit, which is the source of motivation.
Kelly Bryson
Faith is Feeling Alive In The Heart.
Martina E. Faulkner
Your Soul sees your best, most vital self. She holds that vision when you do not. She knows you are worthy.
Elisa Romeo
It is pure devotion that consistently, unwaveringly moves us from control to Soul.
Elisa Romeo
Instead of making decisions based on safety, security, or practicality, the Soul wants us to live our lives according to what we find to be most beautiful.
Elisa Romeo
Cynicism is proof of our intimacy issues with the Divine.
Elisa Romeo
The Soul's path is not straight and orderly; it's windy, often bumpy, and has an incredible view.
Elisa Romeo
The soul journey is about giving birth to your true self
Elisa Romeo
The Soul is attached to the world, and her Love contains the passion, beauty, and awe that make life worth living.
Elisa Romeo
The true energy of Love confidently and unwaveringly burns away all sediment that clings to story while dropping us hard into the naked and raw hum of Right Now.
Elisa Romeo
Once you know your Soul, you are never again subject to give your authority away. You own your truth directly and with certainty.
Elisa Romeo
We live, move, breathe, and having our being in the Love-Light of God
Gary Eby
I learned that when we can be absolutely present like this, our mind, body and spirit become integrated and we are fully conscious, energised, peaceful, alive, at one with the true essence of what it is to be ourselves. In that moment, we can relate with compassion to those around usand to ourselves. It is when what we have satisfies us, and when what we don’t have doesn’t matter.
Pam Billinge
Without energy being invested in resisting the unwanted or dueling with fears, we have more energy and attention available for noticing not only the disturbing, but the wonderful...When we are not fixated on threat and defending ourselves, when we're not exhausted and burned out from chronic stress, we are able to see the daily evidence that we are in the midst of a mind-blowing miracle called Life....Then we will experience breathtaking, heart-rippling moments that counterbalance every trial and tribulation. When we're fully conscious of the universe's artistry and generosity, who needs psychodelics or Prozac?
Charlette Mikulka
We are created with life’s inherent sense of order and urge to thrive.
Deborah Sandella
I understood then, with absolute certainty, that theability of the horse to sense emotion, energy and spirit isbeyond what most of the human world realises. This is whytheir impact on us can be so instant, so consistentlypositive, so transformational.
Pam Billinge
Imagination is an extraordinary resource within each of us with powers not found in ordinary thought processes.
Deborah Sandella
We can honestly say that everyone we've known who has used effective communication has been grateful for it in the long run. Often, effective communication brings about huge relief by showing you just how strongly your partner feels about you -- and by strengthening the bond between you two. And even though in some instances the response may not be what you hoped for and you'll be convinced that you've ruined everything -- if only you had said or done something else, he would surely have come around -- we've never heard anyone say in retrospect that they regretted raising an important issue in a dating or relationship setting. In fact, they overwhelmingly express gratitude that effective communication got them that one step closer to their long-term goal of either finding the right person or strengthening their existing bond.
Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller
I know I am planning to visit a "land" that is not entirely foreign, only foreign to me. As an adventurer, I am on a journey that I believe will last me my whole life. A new relationship, discovery, or awareness excites me.
Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem
How we perceive, feel about and respond to people and situations is far more guided by the lessons of early childhood than we would like to believe. We may be adults, chronologically and physically, but too often the youngest parts of our personality are invisibly, yet actively, living our lives.
Charlette Mikulka
One of the most astounding dynamics in human relationships is how the unconscious intuition of our brain's right hemisphere is able to act as radar to find us just the right person to provoke and recreate our childhood attachment relationship ...I've given much thought to the question of why we are designed to be drawn -like a moth to a flame- to the very person who is most likely to resurrect all our childhood anguish. It seems like a cruel hoax to play on two wounded souls.
Charlette Mikulka
Then, whenever I feel the sun on my face, I will think of you, " I told him. "You will always be with me, Bill. Because of all I have felt for you, and all I have learned from you.
Cornelia Maude Spelman
Women have been brought up with the false sense that they have all the options in the world. We don’t understand that the culture really isn’t offering us all of these options – there still are very strong pressures to conform. We have to step outside the culture to be able to make choices that will really give us what we want. But we lack the psychic mechanisms to do this, to really choose.
Dalma Heyn
Married women are far more depressed than married men -- in unhappy marriages, three times more; and -- interestingly -- in happy marriages, five times more. In truth, it is men who are thriving in marriage, now as always, and who show symptoms of psychological and physical distress outside it. Not only their emotional well-being but their very lives, some studies say, depend on being married!
Dalma Heyn
For the first time in history, middle-class women do not need men in the traditional ways - for safety, for money, for a life. So they’re demanding instead what they always wanted but couldn’t ask for: emotional connection, presence, intimacy. Sex with enough foreplay, enough seduction, enough closeness to please them. Men are baffled not only because the needs they are being asked to fill differ so from what their fathers and grandfathers understood to be their jobs but also because full-fledged intimacy requires strengths and skills they’ve never learned. Moreover… they’re strengths and skills that were once left solely to women: Men didn’t have to develop them. This maturational mismatch may be contributing to distrust among lovers of all ages.
Dalma Heyn
Over time, any deception destroys intimacy, and without intimacy couples cannot have true and lasting love.
Bonnie Eaker Weil
If your creation is taking 99% perspiration, it stinks and you need more inspiration.
Kelly Bryson