Quotes by Psychologists - Page 4

We cannot safely assume that other people's minds work on the same principles as our own. All too often others with whom we come in contact do not reason as we reason or do not value the things we value or are not interested in what interests us.
Isabel Briggs Myers
I don't give advice. I can't tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Really listening and suspending one's own judgment is necessary in order to understand other people on their own terms. As we have noted this is a process that requires trust and builds trust.
Mary Field Belenky
Honesty without compassion and understanding is not honesty but subtle hostility.
Rose N. Franzblau
Man absolutely cannot live by himself.
Erich Fromm
If it hurts it isn't love.
Chuck Spezzano
Those who are the most happy appear to know it the least happiness is something that for the most part seems to mainly consist in not knowing it.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Happiness is a resultant of the relative strengths of positive and negative feelings rather than an absolute amount of one or the other.
Norman Bradburn
Those who have easy cheerful attitudes tend to be happier than those with less pleasant temperaments regardless of money "making it" or success.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
To find out what one is fitted to do and to secure an opportunity to do it is the key to happiness.
John Dewey
Happiness is essentially a state of going somewhere wholeheartedly one-directionally without regret or reservation.
William H. Sheldon
Action may not always bring happiness but there is no happiness without action.
William James
Joy is the feeling of grinning on the inside.
Dr. Melba Colgrove
When you come right down to it the secret of having it all is loving it all.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Happiness is a result of the relative strengths of positive and negative feelings rather than an absolute amount of one or the other.
Norman Bradburn
Habit is the enormous flywheel of society its most precious conservative agent. There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision. Full half the time of such a man goes to the deciding or regretting of matters which ought to be so ingrained in him as practically not to exist for his consciousness at all.
William James
Greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.
Erich Fromm
Giving is the highest expression of potency.
Erich Fromm
As Charles Lamb says there is nothing so nice as doing good by stealth and being found out by accident so I now say it is even nicer to make heroic decisions and to be prevented by 'circumstances beyond your control' from ever trying to execute them.
William James
The God of many men is little more than their court of appeal against the damnatory judgement passed on their failures by the opinion of the world.
William James
The greatest use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.
William James
It's weak and despicable to go on wanting things and not trying to get them.
Joanna Field
There is only one meaning of life: the act of living itself.
Erich Fromm
You have to define success in your own way. What maintains your dignity and integrity and what is your life's plan where do you want to put your efforts. I could be richer and more famous but I would have to give up things that are of infinitely more value.
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
A successful individual typically sets his next goal somewhat but not too much above his last achievement. In this way he steadily raises his level of aspiration.
Kurt Lewin
The emotions are not always subject to reason ... but they are always subject to action. When thoughts do not neutralize an undesirable emotion action will.
William James
Don't wait for your "ship to come in " and feel angry and cheated when it doesn't. Get going with something small.
Irene Kassorla
With mere good intentions hell is proverbially paved.
William James
Now go take on the day!
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Genius as such can neither be explained nor treated away only at times its delay and inhibition and its perversion to destructive or self-destructive ends.
Erik Erikson
Genius in truth means little more than the faculty of perceiving in an unhabitual way.
William James
Most men's friendships are too inarticulate.
William James
The first thing to learn in intercourse with others is non-interference with their own peculiar ways of being happy provided those ways do not assume to interfere with ours.
William James
Human beings are born into this little span of life of which the best thing is its friendships and intimacies ... and yet they leave their friendships and intimacies with no cultivation to grow as they will by the roadside expecting them to "keep" by force of mere inertia.
William James
Is there any stab as deep as wondering where and how much you failed those you loved?
Florida Scott-Maxwell
The moment an individual can accept and forgive himself even a little is the moment in which he becomes to some degree lovable.
Eugene Kennedy
The best proof of love is trust.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
If the will remains in protest it stays dependent on that which it is protesting against.
Rollo May
Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the crudest words.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
There seemed to be endless obstacles ... it seemed that the root cause of them all was fear.
Joanna Field
There seemed to be endless obstacles-it seemed that the root cause of them all was fear.
Joanna Field
Bringing a child into the world is the greatest act of hope there is.
Louise Hart
Faith is one of the forces by which men live the total absence of it means collapse.
William James
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
Erich Fromm
To me faith means not worrying.
John Dewey
No faith is our own that we have not arduously won.
Havelock Ellis
Failure is instructive. The person who really thinks learns quite as much from his failures as from his successes.
John Dewey
Besides the practical knowledge which defeat offers there are important personality profits to be taken. Defeat strips away false values and makes you realize what you really want. It stops you from chasing butterflies and puts you to work digging gold.
William M. Marston
The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
We learn courageous action by going forward whenever fear urges us back. A little boy was asked how he learned to skate. "By getting up every time I fell down " he answered.
David Seabury
Accept that all of us can be hurt that all of us can - and surely will at times - fail. Other vulnerabilities like being embarrassed or risking love can be terrifying too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst take the risk.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Everyday ... life confronts us with new problems to be solved which force us to adjust our old programs accordingly.
Dr. Ann Faraday
A chuckle a day may not keep the doctor away but it sure does make those times in life's waiting room a little more bearable.
Anne Wilson Schaef
Warning: Humor may be hazardous to your illness.
Ellie Katz
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.
William James
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.
George Levinger
The sun moon and stars would have disappeared long ago had they been within the reach of predatory human hands.
Havelock Ellis
Education is what survives when what has been learnt has been forgotten.
B.F. Skinner
To be ambitious for wealth and yet always expecting to be poor to be always doubting your ability to get what you long for is like trying to reach east by traveling west. There is no philosophy which will help a man to succeed when he is always doubting his ability to do so and thus attracting failure. No matter how hard you work for success if your thought is saturated with the fear of failure it will kill your efforts neutralize your endeavors and make success impossible.
Charles Baudouin
The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers.
Erich Fromm