Quotes by Psychologists - Page 18

Our powerful hunger for myth is a hunger for community. The person without a myth is a person without a home...To be a member of one's community is to share in its myths...
Rollo May
Learning to pause is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. A pause is a suspension of activity, a time of temporary disengagement when we are no longer moving toward any goal. . . . The pause can occur in the midst of almost any activity and can last for an instant, for hours or for seasons of our life. . . . We may pause in the midst of meditation to let go of thoughts and reawaken our attention to the breath. We may pause by stepping out of daily life to go on a retreat or to spend time in nature or to take a sabbatical. . . . You might try it now: Stop reading and sit there, doing "no thing," and simply notice what you are experiencing.
Tara Brach
I step outside, easy at first... there is noise; I don't hear it. There are people; I don't see them... I see the water; I am alongside it. There is a big hill; I conquer it. A mile of grass; I fly across it. With each step I am stronger, and then faster. My body engages; I am really flying; I am one with the road, but I no longer feel it. With every step forward I am faster and freer. Nothing can touch me; no one can find me. What I find is the truth. I find myself... I am a runner.
Jacqueline Simon Gunn
I used to think that life was only about progress, getting to a destination, the final outcome. But this isn’t quite right. Life is more of a process, and as much as goals are important, the in-the-moment experiences along the way are really where authentic living takes place. Running has taught me this. In fact, running has been my greatest teacher of life.
Jacqueline Simon Gunn
The mistake is to assume that the way it feels at the moment is the way it will feel forever.
Barry Schwartz
The skill of mindfulness allows you to remain grounded in the present moment even when you face difficult stressors, so that your stressful feelings feel more manageable..
Melanie Greenberg
The point is not to resist painful experiences or grasp at pleasant ones: that's a kind of craving - and craving leads to suffering. The art is to find a balance in which you remain mindful, accepting, and curious regarding difficult experiences - while also taking in supportive feelings and thoughts.
Rick Hanson
Taking in the good is not about putting a happy shiny face on everything, nor is it about turning away from the hard things in life. It's about nourishing well-being, contentment, and peace inside that are refuges you can always come from and return to.
Rick Hanson
...I’ve discovered that if you want to reach yourtrue potential, it’s much more effective to ignite a new passion forlife than to dwell on past problems.
Neil A. Fiore
Your nature is not the problem. The problem is that you have become alienated from your nature -- from your power source.
Laurie A. Helgoe
Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in many different ways for thirty years or more. Instead of our empathically receiving it when they expressed it in much gentler ways -- they were trying to tell us how hurt they felt that some of their most sacred needs were not being respected by the way we were trying to meet our economic and military needs -- they got progressively more agitated. Finally, they got so agitated that it took horrible form.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Reading is a source of liberation. Children who are taught to read early on, are commonly taught to communicate in other significant verbal and nonverbal ways.
Asa Don Brown
When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me
Carl R. Rogers
Every art communicates because it expresses. It enables us to share vividly and deeply in meanings… For communication is not announcing things… Communication is the process of creating participation, of making common what had been isolated and singular… the conveyance of meaning gives body and definiteness to the experience of the one who utters as well as to that of those who listen.
John Dewey
Women tend to communicate early and often about a problem. Men are more likely to view communication as a tool, and when they see it as the wrong tool for the job, they believe it should be stored neatly in the toolbox.
Shawn T. Smith
Understanding what is being said is only a fraction of the task of communicating. Taking in signals from the entire context is critical.
Joanie Connell
I have come to recognize that being trustworthy does not demand that I be rigidly consistent but that I be dependably real...Can I be expressive enough as a person that what I am will be communicated unambiguously?
Carl Rogers
A key to healthy problem solving is good communication.
Asa Don Brown
Relationships are an art form created by two or more individuals who have similar or complementary visions, passions, and ambitions.
Asa Don Brown
Unhealthy relationships are most commonly lacking in the most essential of ingredient: healthy communication.
Asa Don Brown
Communication can be sent or received through verbal or nonverbal cues.
Asa Don Brown
Communication is the lifeblood of an organization.
Asa Don Brown
Intrapersonal communication is a reflection of our daily messages.
Asa Don Brown
A problem well-defined is a problem half solved.
John Dewey
Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.
Rollo May
In the information-communication civilization of the 21st Century, creativity and mental excellence will become the ethical norm. The world will be too dynamic, complex, and diversified, too cross-linked by the global immediacies of modern (quantum) communication, for stability of thought or dependability of behaviour to be successful.
Timothy Leary
Love is a power which produces love.
Erich Fromm
Generous people are likely to receive more respect from their peers.
Arthur P. Ciaramicoli
Freedom has a cost, which is borne by individuals who make bad choices, and by a society that feels obligated to help them.
Daniel Kahneman
The way you choose to think and speak about yourself (to yourself and others), IS A CHOICE! You may have spent your whole life talking about yourself in a negative way, but that doesn't mean you have to continue that path.
Miya Yamanouchi
How are you going to choose to show up for life today?
Lisa Cypers Kamen
They envy your youth. You two are like exotic creatures from the land of the young.’I’ve never understood all that these-are-the-best-years-of-your-life crap. If this is as good as it gets then I might as well quit now. Let me get to the shimmery oasis of adulthood.
Leanne Hall
Duncan's temper kindled, but it didn't dampen the lust seeping along his nerve endings. He could flatten this persnickety witch, or better yet, weave a love spell and bind her to him. Maybe he'd do just that and have done with things. He clasped his hands behind his back to quash the temptation to summon magic.
Ann Gimpel
There are no differences but differences of degree between different degrees of difference and no difference.
William James
Some experimenters have reported that an angry face “pops out” of a crowd of happy faces, but a single happy face does not stand out in an angry crowd. The brains of humans and other animals contain a mechanism that is designed to give priority to bad news.
Daniel Kahneman
Stop being an adrenaline junkie who is waiting for the happy ending instead of seeing the happy being.
andrea T Goeglein
You can't hold on to a grievance and be happy. Time to make a choice!
Robert Holden
Are the choices you are making going to really make you happy NOW or happy eventually?
Robert Holden
The great gift of a spiritual path is coming to trust that you can find a way to true refuge. You realize that you can start right where you are, in the midst of your life, and find peace in any circumstance. Even at those moments when the ground shakes terribly beneath you—when there’s a loss that will alter your life forever—you can still trust that you will find your way home. This is possible because you’ve touched the timeless love and awareness that are intrinsic to who you are.
Tara Brach
I should meet many people who do not know anyone personally who has been raped or molested as a child. But I can't remember seeing a newspaper without a rape or molestation charge in it somewhere, and when I ask groups how many people know someone personally with a history of molestation, almost always, every hand in the room goes up.
Anna C. Salter
In all the interviews I have done, I cannot remember one offender who did not admit privately to more victims than those for whom he had been caught. On the contrary, most offenders had been charged with and/or convicted of from one to three victims. In the interviews I have done, they have admitted to roughly 10 to 1,250 victims. What was truly frightening was that all the offenders had been reported before by children, and the reports had been ignored.
Anna C. Salter
Awareness is the first step in rewriting old stories.
Arthur P. Ciaramicoli
There's no such thing as a minor lapse of awareness. You're either present with what is--right here, right now--or you're someplace else.
Gay Hendricks
Research suggests that people are typically unaware of the reasons why they are doing what they are doing, but when asked for a reason, they readily supply one.
Daniel M. Gilbert
Life, at its best, is a flowing, changing process in which nothing is fixed.
Carl Rogers
Time is a daunting thing; it’s inescapable. Some moments pass unobserved and others stay with us, remaining frozen, lasting a lifetime...
Jacqueline Simon Gunn
We can reach untainted experiential freedom, by living in the moment as it is—without contemplation. Here we find the possibility of freedom—of just being—living as our authentic self. We are our true nature. We are one and whole.
Jacqueline Simon Gunn
Life can be difficult at times and many questions have no answers. The determination it takes to go on and the resiliency required of the human spirit to find joy is an integral part of existing as human. Running is symbolic of this struggle. The joy and satisfaction come from meeting the challenge head on, and realizing that just when you think you cannot go on anymore, if you pull deep from within yourself,you will find strength beyond anything imaginable.
Jacqueline Simon Gunn
countries who have a longer past are better able see further forward into the future and think about extending the time period that they've already been around into the distant future.
Hal Hershfield
So many amazing opportunities arise when a chapter of our life ends. When we resign from a job that we weren't happy in, or even get fired, it's actually a blessing because a better experience is waiting to happen. It's all about perspective.
Miya Yamanouchi
Perspective-changing events can have many parts. One part can be a tense, laughter-filled promise. Another part can have no laughter at all.
Andrea Goeglein
Change your awareness and your perspective changes.
Andrea Goeglein
The thing about perspective-changing events is that they usually don't announce themselves as such.
Andrea Goeglein
Being brave is about the everyday points of bravery that when taken together and viewed from a collective perspective make for an extraordinary life of love.
andrea T Goeglein
With all foreign travel, you learn as much about where you're from as what you're visiting.
Jonathan Haidt
Behavior makes sense from the actor's perception or else the actor wouldn't do it. Nobody wakes up in the morning and says, you know, today I'm going to be conforming, mistaken, nasty, and so on.
Ellen J. Langer
The perspective is more important than the perception
Amit Abraham
Optimism is denial for chumps with no life experience"."What's pessimism?" I said."Religion without God.
Jonathan Kellerman
What we need now are new stories to share with each other, new tales to live into the world, which is to say, stories to make real by living our own versions of them.
Bill Plotkin