Quotes by Canadian Authors - Page 89

We are all searching for love, some at the bottom of a bottle, some at the casino, some in the eyes of a new lover. The more we search outside ourselves, we more desperate we become. We suffer not because love's unavailable, but because we are not looking in the right place.
Vironika Tugaleva
Apathy is, too often, a result of overexposure to stressful, highly emotional situations. To rekindle empathy, sometimes we need some space. It's okay to walk away so that you can feel love for someone again. Sometimes for a moment. Sometimes forever.
Vironika Tugaleva
No one's approval is enough to make up for a lack of self-love, which is really a lack of self-awareness.When we feel a desire to be loved, it isn't other people's love we need. It's our own relationship with love that we're longing for, our own awareness of being interconnected with others, our own sense of the magic of our own interwoven existence. To seek the fulfillment of this desire in others' approval is a losing battle. It will never be enough. No one can compliment you enough to supplement for the acceptance that you need from your own self, in each moment. Acceptance for your struggles and your talents. Acceptance for your humanity. Celebration of that humanity.Love is an inside job.
Vironika Tugaleva
The less approval I get, the more chances I have to develop a relationship with my inner sense of approval. Thankless environments are actually useful for this. They help me discover my own thankfulness and my own self-appreciation.
Vironika Tugaleva
One of the most difficult things I ever did was learn to support myself through my whole range of emotional experiences without running away.
Vironika Tugaleva
When you judge yourself, chances are you also are judging others. True self-acceptance releases you from both.
Akiroq Brost
In order to accept yourself, you must first have some sense of who you are.
Akiroq Brost
Self-love is crucial for the betterment of our lives and for a higher quality of life.
Akiroq Brost
I laugh at myself. It's so important to laugh at yourself. Have a little heart chuckle, cry a few tears. It's OK! Don't apologize for being you. Just be you. Be true to who you are and who you want to be!
Akiroq Brost
There is no way to genuinely, powerfully, truly love yourself while crafting a mask of perfection. I know, you know, we all know—it's hard to let your pimples and your flaws be seen. It's hard to stumble and bumble. It's hard to not know the right things to do or say. It's hard to not look like TV.Sometimes, it's really hard for me to be the awkward mess that I am when I'm authentic, instead of having runway authenticity—all natural, but flawless. But every time I allow that to be okay, not just around myself but around others—I affirm something to myself. I affirm, to myself more than anyone else, that I am lovable and acceptable unconditionally. I affirm that it's okay to take on and take in all the flavours and hues of human experience, and not just the ones that are acceptable in this culture, in this time, in this place.And that kind of acceptance, that kind of love—that's the kind of love that creates miracles. That's the kind of love I really need. That's the kind of love that makes approval taste like cardboard.
Vironika Tugaleva
Compassion is essential, but it’s not a substitute for self-expression, or self-respect, or self-compassion. Emotional self-care is also essential, but gently soothing our wounds does not replace communicating about them.
Vironika Tugaleva
There is no great reward for being emotionally withdrawn, no pity prize for bottling your frustration. No one is coming to congratulate your chronic self-repression. By opening up, maybe you will inconvenience some people. Maybe you will trigger some conflict. Maybe you will be rejected, criticized, judged. Everything comes with a price and everything has its compensation. Authenticity may require pain, but it also opens the doors to joy, creativity, self-respect, empathy. Self-repression, on the other hand, costs you all the beauty of the world in exchange for a prison of comfort. Is it really worth it? Isn't it time to break free?
Vironika Tugaleva
There is no cowardice in removing yourself from a wildly unhealthy and unwinnable situation . . . You shouldn't feel like you have to play . . . you don't owe anyone anything. You don't have to be available to everyone. You can stop.
Scaachi Koul
What if each time you experienced an emotion, you acknowledged it, accepted it, and became curious about its message for you (instead of trying to make it go away or make it last longer)? Imagine how this could change your life. Imagine how heard, loved, and honoured you would feel if you really listened to yourself.
Vironika Tugaleva
Act, think, do, according to your truth, according to who you are, and who you want to be. Congruency matters. How can you escape when you betray your heart, your passion, your needs and your mind? There is no hiding. It will eat you alive. Even if it is difficult, even if it may seem impossible, stay true to yourself. No one can live this life but you. If you live your life solely for others but never for yourself, you will impair your ability to truly help others. Whatever is within us always seeps out through our words, actions and behaviour. If we sabotage ourselves by doing what we may think we are supposed to, according to others but not according to our own hearts, what will our children and loved ones think? What are we showing the world when we betray our very nature? Will others think this is an act of love or self-love? Worse still if others then attempt to mimic it and do the same. Would you want your child deeply unhappy because they were following what they thought they had to, what was expected? If you wouldn't wish that for your child, then don't wish it for yourself either. Be just as loving and caring to yourself as you would be to those you love the most. Learn to love yourself enough to allow yourself to dream, explore, follow your passions, and even risk failure. Follow the truths that are carried within the heart of your soul.
Akiroq Brost
The single biggest thing I’ve done to improve my relationship with others, was to improve the relationship I have with myself. I became lovable when I was able to love myself. No one can love you, if you don’t love you. Accept, nurture and love yourself as you are. You’ll be amazed how much it will also change how others perceive you.
Akiroq Brost
You’ll never know who you are unless you shed who you pretend to be.
Vironika Tugaleva
All love begins with the love within.
Vironika Tugaleva
I am more than my scars.
Andrew Davidson
You know, there comes a point where you're not giving advice anymore. There comes a point where you're just moralizing, demonstrating your hypothetical superiority when it comes to doing the right thing. That's not very fucking helpful, you know. I'm holding my shit together right now, and rather than telling me that it's not enough, you could try to help me with the stuff I'm capable of.
Cory Doctorow
how you love yourself ishow you teach othersto love you
Rupi Kaur
fall in lovewith your solitude
Rupi Kaur
Don't live your life like a movie. Always thinkin you could've been something. Don't live your life for me or for anyone. You live your life as if you're one.
Tegan Quin
Sweetie,” Dino said, coming over to put his arm around her shoulder. He tipped her head up and looked into her eyes with great empathy. “You can’t fuck a statue. At least not at that angle. You’d at least have to tip it onto its back first, and as a conservator, I can’t recommend it.
Rosanna Leo
Be careful who you call crazy. Some of us think it's a compliment.
Marilynn Dawson
Don't I always tell you to never listen to me?
Sean Kennedy
Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it.
Gordon R. Dickson
You can critique her writing, but not her lifestyle.
Lisi Harrison
Inspiration is all around us. Don't let the brain limit the mind .
Lisi Harrison
You're a superhero. Deal with it.
Teresa Toten
Thing was, after the hurricane, life went on. You had to buy milk, fix the broken windows, play some Warhammer, discuss some girls. Wow!
Teresa Toten
I wonderif I should let my hair go greyso my advice will be better.
Margaret Atwood
Treasure the moments, her heart whispered. If you don't learn to treasure the moments, you'll never be able to treasure the memories.
Janette Oke
Her father sat her down and spoke to her with great seriousness. "You are not a witch, Katerina. There is magic in the world, and some of it is wholesome, and some of it is not, but it is a thing that is in the blood, and it is not in yours."The foolish will always treat you badly, because they think you are not beautiful," he said, and she knew this was true. Plain Kate. She was a plain as a stick and thin as a stick and flat as a stick. Her nose was too long and her brows too strong. Her father kissed her twice, once above each brow. "We cannot help what fools think. But understand, it is your skill with a blade that draws this talk. If you want to give up your carving, you have my blessing.""I will never give it up," she answered.
Erin Bow
It's good advice, but I expect it will be hard to follow; good advice is apt to be, I think.
L.M. Montgomery
You can think clearly only with your clothes on.
Margaret Atwood
Instead of going back and looking at the question, people tinker with the solution, trying to make it fit."-Claude Legrande..."The consequences of failing to do that [in our personal lives] are the same as those facing businesses - even more dire, perhaps, because what's being squandered isn't just the potential for profits. It's the potential for happiness. We miss opportunities to innovate and to make positive changes in our lives when we aren't willing to question ourselves.
Amanda Lang
You and I have the decision to decide what we are going to be with our life! Or we can let the paradigm control us and march along in lockstep type fashion.
Bob Proctor
Discipline is giving yourself a command and following it up with action
Bob Proctor
Will gives us the ability to take an idea hold that idea and zero right in on something
Bob Proctor
Calmly, slowly, she reached behind with her left hand and came up against — yes, fabric. Fine linen, to be precise. So far, so good: she was inside a wardrobe, after all. The only problem was that this linen was oddly warm. Body warm. Beneath the tentative pressure of her palm, it seemed to be moving...With terrifying suddenness, an ungloved hand clamped roughly over her nose and mouth. A long arm pinned her arms against her sides. She was held tightly against a hard, warm surface."Hush," whispered a pair of lips pressed to her left ear. "If you scream, we are both lost.
Y.S. Lee
...I've discovered why you fascinate - you keep the mystery and as Carlyle noted, Wonder is the basis of worship...
John Geddes
when I see you, I see mystery - a pale moon's beauty behind a veil of cloud
John Geddes
There must always be a secret to be unwrapped at Christmas—that’s the rule
John Geddes
The fairest thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion which stands at the cradle of true science. He who knows it not, and can no longer wonder, no longer feel amazement, is as good as dead. We all had this priceless talent when we were young. But as time goes by, many of us lose it. The true scientist never loses the faculty of amazement. It is the essence of his being.
Hans Selye
All forests are one... They are all echoes of the first forest that gave birth to Mystery when the world began.
Charles de Lint
I knew your plan before you made it,” Eldora proclaimed, tossing her Wert from hand to hand… “You are somewhat of a mystery, one of Shakespeare’s cryptic sonnets, I reckon, but some lines are rather…obvious. You would be a terrible king.
Mary-Jean Harris
When it came to watching television, Ted was ambidextrous.
Judy Penz Sheluk
There are times when you have to commit a crime to prevent an even bigger one. At least, that’s what I tell myself when I can’t sleep at night.
Judy Penz Sheluk
She'd always despised the whole other woman thing, but here she was, entertaining the possibility.
Diana Stevan
Life is choice. All day, every day. Who we talk to, where we sit, what we say, how we say it. And our lives become defined by our choices. It's as simple and as complex as that. And as powerful. So when I'm observing, that's what I'm watching for. The choices people make.
Louise Penny
Too often the mentally ill are marginalized as people who just can’t pull up their socks. If only it were that simple.
Suzanne F. Kingsmill
It's amazing what the discovery of a corpse can do for one's spirits.
Alan Bradley
How could I tell Clarence that finding another dead body was anything but dreadful? On the contrary: it was thrilling; it was exciting; it was exhilarating, it was invigorating; to say nothing of electrifying and above all, satisfying.How could I tell the dear man that murder made me feel so gloriously alive?
Alan Bradley
As Daffy once said, the best place to hide a glum countenance is onstage at the opera.
Alan Bradley
One learns one’s mystery at the price of one’s innocence.
Robertson Davies
Life isn't as magical here, and you're not the only one who feels like you don't belong, or that it's better somewhere else. But there ARE things worth living for. And the best part is you never know what's going to happen next.
O.R. Melling
How can you possibly do everything you want to do in life if you start doing a bunch of things twice?
Lorii Myers
I am a selfish, conceited, impudent little animal, it is true, but, after all, I am only one grand conglomeration of Wanting…
Mary MacLane
The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.
Brian Tracy