Meghan O'Rourke Quotes

Sometimes you don't even know what you want until you find out you can't have it.

Meghan O'Rourke

If the condition of grief is nearly universal, its transactions are exquisitely personal.

Meghan O'Rourke

the loss is transformative, in good ways and bad, a tangle of change that cannot be threaded into the usual narrative spools...It's not an emergence from the cocoon, but a tree growing around an obstruction.

Meghan O'Rourke

One of the grubby truths about a loss is that you don't just mourn the dead person, you mourn the person you got to be when the lost one was alive. This loss might even be what affects you the most.

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Yet the story of Orpheus, it occurs to me, is not just about the desire of the living to resuscitate the dead but about the ways in which the dead drag us along into their shadowy realm because we cannot let them go. So we follow them into the Underworld, descending, descending, until one day we turn and make our way back.

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What had happened still seemed implausible. A person was present your entire life, and then one day she disappeared and never came back. It resisted belief.

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Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.

Meghan O'Rourke